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Addiction should be treated as a chronic illness, not a personal failure. The right treatment plan combined with family support can significantly increase the chances of successful recovery.
Dr. Jane Smith
psychiatrist specializing in addiction treatment at City Hospital
Confronting a child’s substance abuse is an agonizing journey no parent willingly undertakes. None want to look back and say, “If only we had known better, we could have chosen a different path.” We all wish to avoid the haunting ‘what ifs’ and ‘should haves,’ but time keeps moving, and chances slip through our fingers.
My cousin, a bright young soul, fell into drug use early on. Initially manageable, it soon spiraled. My aunt, out of concern, decided to take a tough stand. However, he disappeared, and now she regrets not being there for him, saying, “If I had stood by him, he might have fared better, and I would know where he is and what he is doing.”
This journey through the maze of addiction involves costly mistakes and exceptionally high stakes. The following insights will provide you with a clearer roadmap for this journey.
Dealing with addiction can be tough, and it often takes a toll on trust within a family. Many individuals who battle addiction understand the harm it causes, not just to themselves but to the people who care about them. Yet, the pull of drugs can be incredibly strong. It is crucial to realize that this compulsion does not arise from a lack of willpower or a moral failing; it is rooted in the profound changes drugs can make in the brain. Preparing your family for the journey ahead.
Addiction does not just affect the individual dependent on it; it ripples through the entire family, impacting their mental well-being, unity, finances, and more. Hence, families require support to navigate the challenges and potential conflicts that emerge during recovery.
Understanding addiction as a disease that alters brain function and structure is crucial for both families and patients. Recognizing this can shift the stigma associated with addiction towards a more compassionate and supportive approach.
Dr. Emily Nguyen
clinical psychologist specializing in addiction therapy
Various resources, including family therapy, workshops, and counseling sessions, are available to help resolve misunderstandings within the family and keep everyone on the same page. You can find more at SAMHSA – Resources for Families Coping with Mental and Substance Use Disorders.
Additionally, you can consider introducing regular family meetings or maintaining a shared journal to foster open discussions, monitor progress, and share updates.
Contrary to the idea that people must hit rock bottom before getting help, it is smart to act early. Look out for early warning signs and red flags. Starting treatment sooner can be less intense, causing less stress and smoothing the path to recovery. Do not wait for a crisis; prompt action is key.
The earlier we intervene in the cycle of addiction, the better the outcomes we can expect. Early treatment can prevent the profound personal, familial, and societal damages that often come with more advanced stages of substance abuse.
Dr. Carlos Rivera
addiction medicine specialist
Discover practical steps to take if you suspect your child is using drugs with this valuable resource – 5 Steps to Address Your Child’s Drug Use.
When it comes to helping your child quit drugs, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. The right approach depends on the specific drug involved and your child’s medical and mental health conditions. Treatment options are available in various settings, such as inpatient or outpatient, and their intensity varies depending on individual needs.
Here are some useful resources you can explore to find the right treatment options for drug addiction tailored to specific needs and circumstances:
Remember, recovery does not end with treatment; it is an ongoing journey. Regular follow-up appointments with a counselor can significantly reduce the risk of relapse.
Family involvement in the recovery process isn’t just helpful; it’s often a critical component of effective treatment. Engaging in family therapy can repair trust and improve communication, laying a foundation for long-term recovery.
Susan Choi
family therapist with a focus on substance abuse
Supporting your child through recovery requires patience, understanding, and a willingness to actively engage in their journey to wellness. Here are some ways you can provide meaningful support during this challenging time:
Your support during their recovery sessions is invaluable. Attending therapy or counseling sessions with them, when appropriate, demonstrates your commitment to their well-being. Besides emotional support, your presence will help you understand their progress and challenges firsthand.
Encouraging your child to be part of a recovery support group can connect them with people who have been through similar tough times. That will make them feel less alone and give them friends who understand what they are going through.
As an example, if your child is working to overcome an opioid addiction, they can connect with peers who have already successfully overcome similar challenges. These communities offer a wealth of shared experiences, guidance, and encouragement.
As they navigate the journey to recovery, help them identify healthy coping mechanisms for the issues that initially triggered their drug use. For instance, if stress is a major factor, introduce them to stress-relief techniques like mindfulness, exercise, or creative pursuits.
To cope with cravings, engage your child in meaningful activities that distract and fulfill them positively. Encourage their involvement in hobbies, sports, or volunteer work, keeping their minds and bodies occupied to reduce the temptation to return to old habits.
Remember to celebrate your child’s accomplishments. Acknowledge their efforts when they make responsible choices, such as sustaining sobriety or attending counseling sessions.
Display empathy and understanding for the challenges they confront. Revisit cherished memories to fortify your emotional connection and ensure they feel valued within the family by including them in gatherings.
It might seem strange to think about relapse when your child is already on the path to recovery. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, relapses are common during recovery. Rather than denying it and not planning for it, it is better to be prepared.
Relapse is not sudden; it is a gradual process where the person starts giving up on recovery months before the relapse occurs. Parents must educate themselves about the various stages of relapse:
Emotional relapse – This stage involves subtle signs such as isolation, poor sleep and eating habits, missing support meetings, and neglecting self-care. These behaviors indicate that your child may be experiencing emotional turmoil and struggling to cope with stressors.
Mental relapse – During this phase, your child may exhibit more obvious signs of relapse, including lying about their activities, experiencing intense cravings for alcohol or drugs, bargaining with themselves about substance use, and appearing less concerned about the negative consequences of previous use. It is essential to recognize these signs as indicators of an impending relapse.
Physical relapse – The final stage of relapse, where your child resumes alcohol or drug use.
Catching these signs early can help you intervene in time and prevent a relapse. Discuss with your child how to manage their sobriety if they encounter situations where they feel tempted to use drugs or if they are offered to them.
Teach your child to pay attention to these needs, the absence of which can make them more miserable and may lead to impulsive behavior.
Emphasize the importance of self-care in managing addiction-related stress, including mental and physical health practices like meditation, yoga, regular exercise, good sleep, and a balanced diet.
Seek treatment options that also address any co-occurring disorders. Substance abuse disorders are often accompanied by anxiety and depression, so treating these conditions can help prevent a relapse.
Let your child know they can come to you or any trusted adult whenever they are feeling low or experiencing intense emotions. Encourage them to attend support meetings or explore relapse prevention classes that equip them with skills to cope with triggers and cravings.
Help your child identify situations or places where they may feel the urge to use drugs, like parties or certain social circles. Encourage them to steer clear of these environments and find healthier alternatives.
Work with your child to create a plan identifying triggers, effective coping strategies, and a support network.
Help them compile a list of supportive people or activities they can turn to when they experience cravings.
If your child experiences a relapse, remain calm and patient, and reassure them that relapse is a common part of the recovery process. It’s important to understand that prolonged substance use can cause significant changes in the brain’s wiring.
Seeing a relapse as a critical indicator. Consult with a healthcare professional to reevaluate and potentially modify the treatment plan or to explore different approaches. This method can help tackle any emerging challenges and strengthen the recovery journey. If your child experiences a relapse:
If you notice unusual symptoms in your child, it is vital to seek medical assistance promptly. Overdose is a serious concern, mainly if they’ve been sober for a while. Tolerance levels may drop during sobriety, increasing the risk of overdose if they consume the usual amount.
Relapse, especially with specific drugs, can pose serious risks. If you are concerned about a potential overdose for your child, seek essential information from your medical provider. For instance, in the case of an opioid overdose, there’s a medication called naloxone that can effectively reverse the overdose effects. Your healthcare provider can guide you on how to use it.
Relapses can shake a child’s self-esteem. Offer encouragement, reminding them of past successes and their ability to overcome challenges. Sometimes, they just need someone to listen, so be there for them. Ask how you can help, and remember these conversations need time and patience.
Collaborate with your child to identify the triggers that led to the relapse. Understanding these triggers can help prevent future relapses and manage cravings effectively.
Remember that relapse is not a failure but an opportunity for learning and growth. Your child’s journey to recovery involves ups and downs, and a single instance of relapse does not define their progress. Seek professional help if your child struggles to control cravings post-relapse.
Creating clear boundaries within your family is vital for supporting your child’s recovery journey. These boundaries include rules against drug use or being around friends who use drugs, treating family members respectfully, avoiding driving under the influence, staying away from triggering situations, limiting contact with negative influences, and maintaining healthy habits.
Though setting boundaries may seem tough at first, they provide essential structure and support for your child’s recovery while benefiting the whole family.
Imagine your child, struggling with addiction, has been arrested for a drug-related offense. Your immediate instinct might be to bail them out of jail, hire a lawyer, and do everything you can to shield them from the legal consequences. While it is natural to want to protect your child, this can be a pivotal moment in their journey to recovery.
Resisting the urge to rescue them from these consequences means letting them face the legal system, which could result in penalties, probation, or even rehab mandated by the court. Although it is incredibly challenging, allowing them to bear the weight of their actions can be a powerful part of their learning process. While it may be painful for both you and your child, it can help them recognize the need for change and take significant steps on their journey to sobriety.
Parents should avoid financially supporting their child’s addiction because doing so perpetuates the issue, increases the risk of relapses, and hinders the child’s accountability.
Even when you refuse to provide money, they may attempt to find alternative ways to fuel their addiction. For instance, in some cases, kids may request money from their parents under pretenses, claiming it is for school supplies but intending to use it for drugs. In such situations, it is prudent to directly provide the necessary school supplies, ensuring that your support is directed toward their well-being rather than enabling their harmful behavior.
By not financially supporting their addiction, you are sending a clear message that you will not enable harmful behavior. Your primary concern is their well-being and their path to recovery, and you are committed to encouraging responsible choices to support their healthier future.
Worrying about your child’s addiction is natural, but do not let it consume you. Focus on your happiness and passions, too. Putting their needs above your own for too long can harm your mental health.
As a caring parent, you can encourage them to be their best selves, but they need to decide for themselves. Some people might wonder how parents can lead their lives in such a situation, but you must know that if you are exhausted, you have nothing left to give.
In facing these challenges, parents are sometimes advised to take a strict approach if their child resists help, including cutting off all ties or asking the child to leave home until they are ready to seek assistance. Although well-intentioned, aiming to motivate the child, this strategy can backfire, leading to worse outcomes. Instead, by affirming to our children that we are with them every step of the way, they may feel more supported and less alone, reducing their confusion and increasing their willingness to engage in recovery efforts.
A poignant example comes from a person in recovery who, after several failed attempts to quit drugs, was asked what finally motivated them to succeed. Their response was simple but profound:
“Because someone believed in me.”
Always remember that communication is like the heartbeat of strong relationships. It keeps the connection between parents and children resilient. So, let us continue talking and listening to strengthen our relationships with understanding and care.
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Let us team up to spread awareness, spark meaningful talks, and put effective plans into action. Join forces to build a brighter future, free from drugs, for our children. Collaboratively, we have the potential to generate enduring and favorable change.
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