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Research indicates that childhood anxiety poses a significant mental health challenge in our modern age. It’s an eye-opener to know that one in every five children grapples with clinical-level anxiety by the time they hit adolescence. While many kids eventually outgrow these worries, some continue to struggle, especially those who don’t receive the necessary support and assistance.
If you notice your young child or teen wrestling with anxiety, there’s plenty you can do to lend a helping hand. We’ve got some practical advice to guide you through providing comforting support, working together on coping strategies, and (if necessary) seeking out professional help.
Anxiety is a complex mix of worry, fear, and unease that can flood our children’s young minds and bodies with unsettling sensations. It’s something we all experience to some degree, but it’s a little more taxing for our children and teens.
Think about those moments before a big office presentation when nerves kick in. It’s a natural stress response. Typically, once the event is over, the anxiety eases off, and they switch back to their usual animated selves.
Anxiety becomes a real issue when it clings to your child, refusing to budge. When this happens, it can feel like being trapped in a whirlwind of overwhelming emotions, making even simple tasks seem daunting. More importantly, it can often dampen their daily lives, limiting what they feel up to tackling.
Children and teens get anxious for all sorts of reasons. It is usual for them to feel on edge without any clear cause. But if your child seems overwhelmed by anxiety, it might be a sign that something in their life is not quite right. That’s where a little extra support can really come in handy to help them figure out what’s really going on.
Here are some situations that might set off anxiety in our children:
Anxiety can really mess with our children—their bodies, thoughts, feelings, and behavior. When a child or teen is dealing with uncertainty, you might notice them acting out of character or trying out new ways to cope with or dodge those apprehensive feelings.
Anxiety in children is often misunderstood as misbehavior or attention-seeking. It’s important for parents to recognize anxiety symptoms early on. Engaging children in discussions about their feelings and fears is a step towards understanding and managing anxiety effectively.
Dr. Jane Smith, Pediatric Psychologist:
Here are some ways anxiety might show up physically:
Here are some ways anxiety might mess with your child’s thoughts:
Here’s how anxiety might make your child feel:
Here are some ways anxiety might affect your child’s behavior:
When children get really anxious, they risk having a panic attack. If this happens, we must make them feel calm and secure. Check out the strategies below that may help.
The brain of a child is still developing and learning how to regulate emotions. When we teach children coping strategies for anxiety, we’re not just helping them for today—we’re setting the foundation for healthier emotional responses as they grow.
Dr. Robert Lee, Child Psychiatrist
Just being close can make a world of difference. You can hold your child’s hand or hug them if it feels right. But if you think that’s too much, simply sitting nearby can work wonders too.
Reassure them that this uneasy feeling won’t stick around forever and that they will be alright. Try telling your child to think of it like a wave they can ride, with you beside them, supporting them until it eventually calms down.
If you have yet to try this trick, talk with them when they feel calm to figure out what this safe spot or person could be. Maybe it’s their cozy bedroom, a favorite spot in nature, or even a memory from a fun vacation. Sometimes, just holding onto a little keepsake from that calming place, like a seashell or a pebble, can do wonders.
They could go for a run, a walk in the park, blasting some tunes, kick back with their favorite movie, dive into a beloved book, jot down thoughts in a journal, or get creative with painting or drawing.
Let’s say, in the whirlwind of her thoughts, your daughter finds refuge doing the things she knows best. She picks up her paintbrush and immerses herself in vibrant colors. Later, she pours her heart onto the pages of her journal, feeling the weight of stress lifting with every word. Through these simple actions, your child may find peace amidst the storm of anxiety and unease.
Anxiety can make your child feel all sorts of uncomfortable things: one moment, queasy, one moment, it makes their heart race. If they know how to spot these signs, they will know when to reach out and do something to ease the tension.
Consider this approach: take a sheet of paper and sketch a simple stick figure. Then, ask them to add words or pictures showing how their body reacts when anxiety attacks. Make sure they know you’re interested and accepting of whatever they share.
Spend time figuring out what triggers their anxiety. This could include schoolwork, relationships, or a combination of both. Ask them if there are changes you can make at home or school to help lighten the load.
Encourage them to start a ‘stress bucket’ activity together. Let them jot down what’s stressing them out and what helps them feel better.
Families play a critical role in helping children manage anxiety. Together, families can create stability and a sense of normalcy that helps children feel secure. Engaging in family activities that promote relaxation and connection is key.
Dr. Lisa Wong, Family Therapist
Calmly, try to find out what’s going on inside their head. When your child opens up, make sure they know you understand where they are coming from. It’s normal to want to sweep their worries under the rug because, as parents, we want to make them feel better. But really, sometimes, just listening and understanding can work wonders.
When calm, ask them to create a list of activities that perk them up. Here are some things they could try:
You can help your child shake off their worries by just having a blast together and talking about all sorts of things. It doesn’t really have to be anything fancy. Just something that will leave them with fun memories.
Try doing an activity that grabs their attention. It will help keep their mind on the present moment. Maybe shoot some hoops, jam out on some musical instruments, or get crafty with a drawing or crocheting project.
Think about trying out activities like yoga, meditation, or even mindful coloring. It’s important to remember that what works for one person might not work for another, so encourage your child to explore and find what truly helps them unwind. As parents, it is our job to make sure they prioritize self-care and look after themselves.
You can easily find guided meditations or soothing music online for younger children. Additionally, some daily activities play a crucial role in supporting our children’s mental well-being. These include:
While these seem like simple things to do, they can actually make a big difference in how our children feel. For instance, regular exercise (like free play) can be incredibly helpful in easing feelings of anxiety because it has a calming effect on the body.
And the best part is, it doesn’t have to be anything intense. Just taking a leisurely walk or doing gentle calisthenics can work wonders.
Please make sure you let your child know how much you appreciate their effort and hard work. Remind them that as they continue to confront their anxiety, it will gradually start to fade away. Facing fears can be challenging for kids, so any chance you get to cheer them on and recognize their determination will make a difference.
Let’s say you know your child has been struggling with math homework, and they’ve been working on it for hours. But you see them diligently working through each problem despite feeling frustrated and tired.
In this case, you can say, “I can see how hard you’re working on your homework, and I appreciate your effort. I know it’s not easy, but you are doing great. Keep it up!”
Don’t try to hide your own experiences with anxiety and stress from your child. Instead, let them see or hear how you calmly tolerate it, manage it, and come out feeling better after getting through it.
Remember that kids pick up a lot from watching their parents, so every time you handle anxiety well, it is a valuable life lesson for them. For instance, if you’re feeling stressed because you’re running late for your child’s dental appointment, you could say, “I’m feeling a bit anxious about getting to our appointment on time. Can I switch on the car radio to help me calm down?”
With your teen, you might not need to explain it in the same way, but simply demonstrating effective coping mechanisms will show them effective and healthy ways to deal with anxiety.
In today’s digital age, there are numerous tools and apps designed to help children understand and manage their anxiety more effectively. These apps often include features like mood tracking, mindfulness exercises, and stress management techniques, which can be engaging and beneficial for children. Here are some recommended tools and apps that can support your child’s mental health:
By incorporating these tools into daily routines, children can learn to manage their anxiety in a fun and interactive way. Each app offers unique features that cater to different aspects of anxiety management, from mindfulness and relaxation to emotional education and resilience building.
It’s important to remember that every child is different. What works for one might not work for another. Continuous support, patience, and willingness to adapt strategies are vital in helping your child navigate anxiety.
Dr. Omar Davis, Child Psychologist
In addition to managing your child’s restlessness and worries, it’s important for them to learn how to deal with their anxiety over the long term. Most of the strategies we listed involve helping them understand their anxiety better and what methods work best for them.
The more they understand this, the more confident they will become in their ability to cope, which can make anxiety feel less overwhelming.
As you think about which strategies to try, always give credit for doing your best. It’s completely normal to feel a bit overwhelmed at times. Just remember that you don’t have to try five different things all at once.
Take a close look at our suggestions and choose one or two that you think might be helpful. It’s all about taking small steps towards managing your child’s anxiety effectively.
If you are looking for more practical advice on recognizing and handling childhood anxiety, we suggest checking out “Dealing With Teen Anxiety: A Simple Guide to Overcoming Anger, Depression, and Low Mood in Young People, using Cognitive Behavioral Therapy” by Maggie and Renee Lovange.
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