3 Insight That Makes Parenting Easy

Parenting can be a challenging and demanding task, but there are some strategies that can help make it easier. If you have searched the internet, you have found the main ones:

Develop a routine.
Stay organized.
Practice positive discipline.
Take care of yourselves.
Seek support.
Be flexible.

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The top 3 insight that makes parenting easy

But for me, what made my parenting easy were the following 3 main things. I was lucky to find out about these 3 insights in time. Even before the moment comes when I have to apply them.

1. When to say NO.

2. The importance of boundaries.

3. How to deal with unruly children.

1. When to say NO

This tip I got from my mom. As a parent, we feel like saying NO all the time. Don’t eat this, Don’t run, Don’t jump, don’t lean out of windows, stop screaming, you can’t have this or that.

– It is important to reduce the use of these 2 letters. If you use NO too often, it loses its meaning. Save it for really important moments. The older the kids get, the more often you’ll want to say it. Learn to replace it with an explanation. It’s much more efficient

When they ask you for something before you say NO, ask them why they want it. As they explain why it is important for them to have it or do it, you give yourself time to consider whether you are ready to hold your position BEFORE TO SEY NO.

– The less often you use NO, the more it will be heard when you really need it, like don’t run on red lights, don’t play with guns.

See more in “The Art of Not Saying NO.”

2. The importance of boundaries

Setting boundaries is crucial for children. These boundaries change during the different stages of development and growth.

– We set boundaries to keep them safe. They help children understand what is acceptable behaviour and what is not, which can keep them out of dangerous situations.

I’m not going to tell you what boundaries you should set because they are different for every family and every stage of development.

– What helped me establish these boundaries and not feel guilty by applying them is that I give security and not limitations.

Of course, children will try to break them all the time. It’s human nature. You will notice that they do things behind your back. At some point, they will try to lie to you. When they are older, they will try to steal. When they are older, they will do something else. In most books and forums, they say – punish him.

I’m not particularly eager to punish. I prefer to explain.

When they do something bad, I make them take the punishment themselves. That way, I can see if they understand where they went wrong or if I must keep explaining.

– Firm boundaries help build self-esteem. Boundaries provide a sense of safety and security for children. As strange as it sounds, boundaries can help children build self-esteem and confidence because they know what is expected of them and feel empowered to make good choices.

In general, setting and enforcing boundaries is essential for children’s emotional, social, and physical development. It helps them feel safe and secure, learn self-control and respect, and develop as responsible and independent adults.

3. How to deal with unruly children

Dealing with unruly children can be challenging. You must be ready when you see that your child is out of control, you must act. Things are different at different stages of development, and you have to work differently depending on the situation.

– In any case, you must remain calm. Yelling or getting angry can escalate the situation and make it harder to resolve. The moment you lose your temper, you show weakness. The last thing they need to see at this point is your insecurity.

The first thing you need to do is find out why this is happening. Ask why. If you can explain it to yourself, find a solution, or better yet, let the child find a solution that doesn’t overstep your boundaries.

This is how you give them control. By gaining control, they begin to feel responsible, and this helps them to make sure they don’t violate what they have invented.

But in most cases, they don’t know why. They shout, scream or throw. Something has angered them, or there is a sly energy, they are offended, they are interested… Yes, they really don’t know. They just feel the urge and do it. The smaller they are, the more often these bursts of uncontrollability occur.

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Then you have to do something to shock them. Something to surprise them into stopping. For example, you asked your 3-year-old to pick up the toys he was playing with, but instead, he started throwing them. There’s no point in yelling or saying OK, I’ll pick them up. Keep calm. Get a garbage bag and put every toy he throws in it. Explain that it is no longer needed after I throw it, and you will throw it in the trash.

I can’t predict all the situations you will find yourself in, to give you a specific example.

See the article on unruly children to see more examples.

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